And if you find that your conversations feel “boring”…the problem here could be that you are simply exchanging facts with the other person.On a romantic date some of these questions may be appropriate. What I’ve now realized is that making small observations about your environment is a great way to restart any conversation.In other situations you’ll want past stories to come up more spontaneously, as they relate to whatever topic is being talked about. Instead of racking the inside of your brain searching for something to say…The best question I’ve found for finding out someone’s hobbies is: Some people say you shouldn’t talk about work. When you stop and listen to what people usually talk about, work and school are at the top of the list.After all, people do spend several hours a day at these places.
Because of the law of reciprocity, the other person will usually share what countries they’ve been to automatically, or they may ask you a question about your travels.And don’t worry, almost all of the topics I suggest are “normal.” This means you won’t hear me tell you to say lines which a normal person would never talk about in real life. You’ll notice most of them are fairly straightforward and “ordinary.” That’s because you don’t need to be talking about aliens and obscure philosophy in most conversations. ) Often simple and obvious topics are enough to kick-start your brain again.I’ve also put them into groups to make it easier for you: If you find out what a person’s hobbies are, you instantly know a lot more about them.So the lesson here is: WHAT you talk about doesn’t always have to be incredibly interesting.You can make almost any conversation interesting if you are not afraid to openly share your unique perspective, personality and opinion.