There was safety in the shadows, but also a kind of darkness. " my friend whispered as we walked back to the car with the guys a few steps ahead. "Like we were supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend, or something.""Well," she said slowly. I'd completely accepted her romance with an older guy as normal, even destined. When he wasn't upset, he was in kindness overdrive, buying me things: a gold necklace with a floating heart, stuffed animals.In tenth grade, we made friends with a group of older guys who hung out on the main street of town, which ran parallel to the local university — guys who'd once gone to our same high school and had never left the social scene. I remember how quiet it was, birds soaring overhead, no other sound. I grew to dread the moments we were alone, especially when I needed a ride home at the end of the night to make my curfew. In the initial years following, I never really talked about this with anyone other than my high school girlfriends and various therapists. However cool it makes you is exactly how lame it makes him.You might feel like Joan Jett when he picks you up in his Seville outside the high school in front of all your friends, but he is being mercilessly mocked by all of the women in his life for dating a 14-year-old.2.
And that's all about , the said power trip he is getting off on should be overt.Among the biggest reasons that he likes you is because you're young.Yes, he might be into you because you like the same bands and you act "mature for your age." (Has he ever told you that you have "an old soul?Our circle of friends ranges in age from 41 to 51 – I just could not imagine subjecting them (or me) to dinner with a 70-year-old woman. Paul is handsome and successful and, if anything, we expected a rebound relationship with a twentysomething babe, which would honestly be a bit more comfortable. I’m quite shocked and surprised to hear these comments, especially coming from a woman. If I had a dollar for every woman who has complained to me that middle-aged men aren’t interested in women their own age, let alone older women – well, I’d have a nice, fat roll, which I’d wrap in a rubber band and flash around at every opportunity.Just last week, on vacation in Mexico, I met a vibrant, smart, funny, attractive 45-year-old woman who was divorced and online dating. But now your friend Paul bucks the trend, dates an older woman, and what do you do?