Online dating is a numbers game, especially if you're a guy.
Girls get bombarded with messages, many of which get deleted and never read.
It's easy to get bummed out and have a bad attitude when things don't work out, but it's best to keep things positive in your messages, as well as in your profile description and photos. Even if things don't work out, keep it positive from start to finish.
There were a couple times on POF where girls I had briefly messaged with in the past would come back around, sending me a message out of the blue.
It's worth experimenting with both search criteria.
I experimented with this once on the Plenty of Fish dating app and found that most girls either wouldn't respond to a coffee date invite, or they would decline, or they would cancel. Dinner dates can be very expensive, especially if you're doing it a few times per month.
Even if you have a well-written "About Me" section, it won't get you anywhere without a good selection of photos in your profile. What a lot of guys do is they message back and forth for way too long, playing twenty questions.
You should include at least two, preferably three, fully body pictures. Secondly, women who are actually motivated to meet in person are expecting you to be confident and ask for the date sooner than later.
Not only do you need to craft a clever message, but you also need to be focused on messaging multiple people to increase your reply rate.
Unless there's a shortage of POF members where you live, or you can't find people you have things in common with, you should avoid falling into the trap of only sending one message each time you log in.
In order to get replies that lead to dates, both your profile quality and your interactions with women on the site are crucial.
I'll share some POF dating tips that have worked well for me in the past when I was actively using the app.